Hi everyone and welcome to Lesson 02 of In My Pocket Volume 02!
Setting goals is one of my favorite parts of memory keeping and in this class series. I’ve shared in Volume 01 about how setting goals for me has evolved over the years from being quantifiable goals (raise a $$ amount or lose a certain #) to being more actionable items. What are things we can actually do, can actually accomplish, in order to feel successful in what we are doing.
My ultimate priority in memory keeping is to have albums filled with layouts that I am proud to share with family and friends. I used to cringe at my albums because when you pulled them off the shelves, papers and photos would fall out, or pages were empty. So I committed to completing albums and have created my entire business around completing albums and inspiring others to complete albums and feel accomplished.
I want you to feel accomplished too, and I want you to feel proud to pull your albums off your shelves. I hope these classes help you complete albums by creating actionable goals that you actually can do. This is a great time to reevaluate your own memory keeping goals. Identify the projects that are most important to you and work towards those.
The priority starts with what I am looking to document in this album. What do I want to remember? Included in the workbook are some prompts and opportunities for you to think about this. I want you to write it down and wrap your mind around where you are right now, what are you taking in right now that you want to document.
Begin with your own person. Who you are and who and what is around you? What are you taking in every day? What are you processing? This ties in for me and where I am in my healing process. I am processing every day what is happening and what has happened and memory keeping is one of the most valuable tools in that process for me.
For pocket page albums, the goal tends to be regular weekly or monthly documenting of our every day life. Context for all the seemingly random things happening, specific events, cherished memories are going into these albums.
Second, think about who you are doing this for? Who is this about and who is this for? There may be a whole list, but your name should be at the top of that list. Do this for yourself. All of our creative endeavours should be done because we love it, not because we feel obligated. Becky Higgins a few months ago took down her Christmas cards and she got a little flack for tossing those cards, but she reminded us quite appropriately that we are only our own memory keepers. We can’t keep other people’s memories and we are not in charge of those memories. We are only responsible for our own memories and our own stories.
I am constantly reminded, in a household of six people, that each of us is traveling this life individually. We might experience the same things together, but every person will experience those things differently. So I can document what is happening, but every person in this house will have a different experience!
I hear this a lot: Be Authentic. And what does that mean? Here is the deal. If you are writing in your own words, using your own experiences, IS authentically you. As long as you are being truthful and honest and sharing of yourself, that is authentically yourself. Your stories are authentically who you are. Ultimately tell your stories. That is what you do best.
The act of telling our stories is not as selfish as it might seem. There are so many things people do that seem selfish – playing golf, watching a movie, baking cupcakes. But there is something extra special about our memories and documenting our lives that is a gift to ourselves and to those who will remember us when we are gone. But also, when we tell our stories, we empower others to tell their stories as well. We see this all around us today on both sides – people who don’t want to hear someone else’s stories, and others who are finding common ground in someone else’s stories and being able to share their own.
Let’s also evaluate what is working and what isn’t working at this point. Ali Edwards encourages us in December to do this when we prepare for December Daily, right? To assess what you’ve done and what is working for you, what did you really enjoy documenting? Continue that. What are some gaps you can identify? Make those your goals. Find those opportunities to fill that gap. Just writing down your list can help you to create actionable goals in your memory keeping. This is how we can grow and this is how we can delve deeper into these lived experiences.
One thing I felt constricted by in 2017 was using 12×12 layouts and not using pocket pages. I am excited this year to go back to pocket pages and want to incorporate different page styles into my memory keeping. That is a definite change I am making and I am really excited about it. What are things you have felt needing to change from last year? Sometimes you need to change up your album size. Sometimes you need to go to using one single page style. The goal is to identify what is holding you back and work to change that.
This is a gentle reminder about how I approach the whole thing – all the photography, the products, the pages, the printing, and completed layouts all represent our lives. I am not getting bogged down in excruciating detail, but more interested in representing our family life, myself, my experiences, my stories. That informs all of the decisions from here on out. How can I represent that best and what are the processess that will help me accomplish that? How can you best represent the stuff that makes up your life?
Let’s move on to the videos for this lesson.